This gem has everything to do with mental health and well-being. Dale Carnegie’s Little Book of Golden Rules is a pamphlet that was distributed at his past training seminars, it contains highlights from his books, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.”
RULES FROM “HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING”
Fundamental Rules for Overcoming Worry
- Live in “day tight compartments.”
- How to face trouble:
- Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
- Prepare to accept the worst.
- Try to improve on the worst.
- Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.
Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry
- Get all the facts.
- Weight all the facts – then come to a decision.
- Once a decision is reached, act!
- Write out and answer the following questions:
- What is the problem?
- What are the causes of the problem?
- What are all the possible solutions?
- What is the best solution?
RULES FROM “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE”
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
- Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Six Ways to Make People Like You
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Remember that a man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other man’s interests.
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
Twelve Ways to Win People to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other man’s opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
- Let the other man do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other man feel that the idea is his.
- Try to honestly see things from the other person’s point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and decisions.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throw down a challenge.
Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other man save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about doing the things you suggest.
Seven Rules for making Your Home Life Happier
- Don’t nag.
- Don’t try to make over your partner.
- Don’t criticize.
- Give honest appreciation.
- Pay little attentions.
- Be courteous.
- Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.
How to Break the Worry Habit Before It Breaks You
- Keep busy.
- Don’t fuss about trifles.
- Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries.
- Cooperate with the inevitable.
- Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it more.
- Don’t worry about the past.
Seven Ways to Cultivate a Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace and Happiness
- Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, hope, and health.
- Never try to get even with your enemies.
- Expect ingratitude.
- Count your blessings – not your troubles.
- Do not imitate others.
- Try to profit from your losses.
- Create happiness for others.
How to Keep from Worrying About Criticism
- Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.
- Do the very best you can.
- Analyze your own mistakes and criticize yourself.
- Ask others for constructive criticism.
Six Ways to Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High
- Rest before you get tired.
- Learn to relax at your work.
- If you are a housewife, protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home.
- Apply these four good working habits:
- Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
- Do things in order of their importance.
- When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have all the facts necessary to make a decision.
- Learn to organize deputize, and supervise.
- Put enthusiasm into your work.
- Don’t worry about insomnia.